Supporting Kids in the Transition from School to Summer: Signs They’re Struggling Beneath the Fun

The transition from the structured school year to the freedom of summer can be exciting for kids, but it can also bring unexpected challenges. While summer is often seen as a time of fun and relaxation, not all children adjust easily. For some, the shift in routine, social dynamics, and expectations can feel overwhelming. As parents and caregivers, recognizing the signs that your child is struggling can help you provide the support they need.

Why the School-to-Summer Transition Can Be Hard

Many children thrive in the predictability of the school year—set schedules, structured learning, and consistent social interactions. When summer arrives, that routine disappears, leaving some kids feeling unmoored. Children who are sensitive to change, neurodivergent, or prone to anxiety may especially struggle with the shift.

Additionally, summer brings unique stressors:

• Social Changes – Without daily interactions with friends, kids may feel lonely or left out.

• Unstructured Time – Some children enjoy the flexibility, while others find it stressful.

• Pressure to Have Fun – The expectation that summer should be “carefree” can make it hard for kids to express when they’re struggling.

Warning Signs That Your Child Might Be Struggling

Even if your child seems to be enjoying summer activities, there are subtle signs that they may be having a tough time with the transition:

• Increased Irritability or Mood Swings – If your child is more short-tempered or easily upset, they may be experiencing underlying stress.

• Changes in Sleep Patterns – Trouble falling asleep, frequent nightmares, or early waking can indicate anxiety or unease.

• Loss of Interest in Activities – If your child is withdrawing from things they usually enjoy, they may be struggling emotionally.

• Increased Clinginess or Separation Anxiety – Some kids who seemed independent during the school year may suddenly become more attached.

• Frequent Complaints of Boredom – While some boredom is normal, excessive frustration with free time can be a sign of difficulty adjusting.

• Regression in Behaviors – You might notice an increase in meltdowns, difficulty with transitions, or a return to old habits.

How Play Therapy Can Help

For children who find transitions challenging, play therapy offers a safe space to process emotions and build resilience. Play allows kids to explore their feelings about change, develop coping strategies, and feel more in control of their experiences. A play therapist can help children navigate the emotions that come with seasonal shifts, offering tools to express their struggles and find comfort in new routines.

Supporting Your Child at Home

There are many ways parents can help children feel more secure as they transition from school to summer:

• Create a Predictable Routine – Even if it’s flexible, a general daily rhythm can provide a sense of stability.

• Validate Their Feelings – Let them know it’s okay to feel unsettled, and help them name their emotions.

• Plan for Social Connection – Schedule playdates or camps to help maintain friendships.

• Incorporate Playful Check-Ins – Use storytelling, drawing, or pretend play to help your child express how they’re feeling.

• Prepare for the Next Transition – As summer moves forward, talk about the return to school so it doesn’t feel like a sudden shift again.

Transitions are hard, but with support, children can navigate them with confidence. If your child is struggling, play therapy can provide a space for them to process their emotions and develop the tools they need to thrive in every season.